Things worth Remembering !

Before Paw-paw D passed away, he bought mom-mom a box of chocolates like he had bought her since they got married.... he died before Valentines day.. but he made sure (even with his dementia) she had her box of Chocolates from him! she still had that box (no chocolates of course) when she passed away.. I hope who ever had that box knew how extremely precious it was! By the way... Paw-paw's special name for mom-mom was Mom-bo!

Paw-paw had been forgetting who mom-mom was. He kept asking for 'my Ruby' he was wanting a young Ruby... he talked about Ruby like she was the only thing he ever loved or cherished. There were days he'd take off walking to the 'train station' to find his Ruby! But this day it was like he knew he wouldn't be there for Valentines day!


   Granddaddy Foster was a man of total genuine-ness  (is that a word?)   He was like Joseph in my eyes.. Sweet man of integrity full of compassion and love for taking care of his family.   He married my grandmother who in her youth had already been through so much sadness and she was a single mom.  He married my grandmother Ethel and took her son (Harold) to be his own.  He loved being a father and a husband and stood true forever and always.  He was one who encouraged and helped others along the way,  upholding his love for Jesus and showing everyone he met that Jesus was the answer to every situation. 
   He had many jobs and in each job he gave it everything he had. There were some of his superiors that ask for his advice and council on situations although he was not compensated for these helpful hints and corrections.  He was brilliant! His accomplishments weren't outward where the world knew but if his inventions had been awarded to him where he deserved he would have been a rich man. . He would figure out areas that would be better for machines and there would be corrections.  He was wonderful with his hands.. working and keeping busy.
  He loved his grandkids and greatgrandkids, he saw that each and everyone of us knew we were loved... we all felt like we were his favorites!  He had an ability to just speak and we listened!  He was funny and silly and knew when to be there for us in our time of need!  He loved being loved,  he just loved freely! What a precious man he was!  I miss him dearly!   

Both Granddaddy and Paw-paw D grew up without knowing Christ and seeing Christ displayed in the home.  There were people in their lives that followed Christ but until they were married with children did they know the Love of Christ inside themselves.  They Chose to make a difference and Accept Christ as their personal Savior when they were in their early 30's.   They made a huge difference in their homes ...  raising each child to Love God with all their hearts!  Raising their kids to know Who God is and that the Bible is the True Word of God.  I will forever be grateful to them for the heritage I have had because of their choice!  

Sadness has hit again .. like a brick in the stomach.... Its not ' just my life from now on ' its death and its sad and it hurts!

In stead of saying I'm sorry.. Instead of saying you have my sympathy,  I was told "its just your life from now on"  I don't usually take things hard.. but that along with the same person when my grandmother died was the same thing.  "it was a blessing ~  Alzheimer isn't a nice disease and she's better off"  That's not what you want to hear when your grandmother dies. Yes, sadly its true but you want to hear .. I'm sorry she had that horrible disease, I'm sorry it took her life... I'm really sorry you wont be able to talk or chat or visit or hold her hand any more...  even an I'm sorry...  but with Lisa its certainly Not what I needed to hear.. "that's your life from now on... NOOOOO LISA WAS  55 YEARS OLD>>>  UNCLE MARK WAS 67....   NO that's NOT what life is supposed to be...  Can you just say your sorry and leave it at that...

Born: November 13, 1959
Died: March 22, 2015

Lisa Dawn Dillon

November 13, 1959 -March 22, 2015 .Left this earth to join her loved ones who preceded her in death, father Charles Lucas, step-father Ronald “Bojo” Dunaway, and her brother Thomas G Lucas.

She is survived by her soul mate and loving husband of 34 years Matt Dillon and sons Adam (Myranda) and grandson Eli, T.J. (Sondra) and granddaughter Micah. She also leaves behind her mother Nelma Dunaway, brothers Randy (Laberta), Mike (Margaret), John (Donna) and sister Kathy Lucas. Also left to grieve her loss are her many very special nieces and nephews. The family would like to thank the Hubbard Hospice House in Charleston for their wonderful care during her last difficult days!

Visitation will be Wednesday March 25th from 6:00 to 8:00 pm at the Allen Funeral Home in Hurricane. The funeral will be 2:00pm Thursday at Allen Funeral Home, Burial will follow in Culloden Cemetery.

If you wish to make a donation in Lisa’s memory, the family suggests making them to the Hubbard Hospice House or the National MS Society.

  1 week before she died ~ she was showing me how much weight she lost. Precious smile on her face even though fear and sadness was overtaking her life. 

   Lisa My Lisa,  Oh how Im going to miss her!  She was my very first friend and confidant ... she and I grew up closer than sisters and she was more precious to me than just a 'cousin' .   We had a lot of things in common and we understood eachother more than we should have!  The last time I was with her she was in Pittsburgh Hospital (where her doctor sent her up to have the Whipple surgery, for Pancreatic Cancer. but they were unable to do the surgery. Her cancer was too far gone.)    She was alseep and had been for a while.  Matt went to move his truck and Karl and I were in the room with her.   She woke up saying Matt I can't breath ` but didn't seem to be in distress'  she said it again... Matt I can't breath and she looked around... I got up and was going toward her and she saw me.. She said "Kimmy my Kimmy" ...  I helped her sit up and she laid her head on my shoulder and went back to sleep for a few minutes.. I'd love to have those few minutes back.. to be close to her and hold her.  She died 4 days later.  Part of my heart went with her. Lisa My Lisa!    After her graveside service her son came to me and said the sweetest thing anyone has ever said to me.  In his grief he smiled at me and told me he was so happy I was coming around his mom and his family because I "brought the happiness of Jesus" Im glad I could do that.  Im glad God helps me to love and smile and help where I can.  I pray Adam and his family find Jesus and can keep the happiness of Jesus with them and dont have to find it in others... but I intend to keep them in my life even though Lisa is gone. I want to take happiness to them and everyone when Jesus gives me a chance!   

Uncle Mark Foster 

  Uncle Mark Foster     67 years old He died Feb 4, 2015  Died of Congestive heart failure.   Uncle Mark was precious and sweet!  He made lots of mistakes in his life and he didn't take good care of his body,  Drinking and smoking were his worst enemy.  He lost his family and really messed up lots of areas...  It makes me wonder what he thought about and how he came to do that.   He grew up in the same family 7 other boys and 1 girl grew up.  He wasn't the only one that made bad decisions but in a family of 12 (one brother died as an infant) theres bound to be some who make serious mistakes.   ~God chose to give us free will ~ we were meant to make our own choices and to ask God for direction. ~ What makes people who grew up in the church and knows the Love of God turn from that life.?  I understand addiction... I have an addiction to food... I can't -- no choose -- not to say no to a cookie or chocolate.  But I believe addiction to drugs, cigarettes, and alcohol is different.  These things change your mental thought process~which leads to more poor decisions. (well maybe not cigarettes - but certainly drugs and alcohol- I do believe Uncle Mark accepted Christ in his last days, maybe months or years. But at that point his choices made his body weak and sick.  At that point it was too late to reverse the process of his body disagreeing with his choices.   Nothing can change the fact that Uncle Mark was loved dearly by many of us,  He will certainly be missed.. His beautiful smile will always burn in my heart!    

Another sad day...  this time in Moms side of the family again ..  

Michael J Lucas

Born: May 05, 1951
Died: January 22, 2016

Michael J. Lucas 64 of Milton passed away on Friday January 22, 2016. He was a retired Brick layer with Union Local # 9. He enjoyed all of the outdoors as well as his Grandchildren and family. 
He is survived by Wife Margaret White Lucas, Son Charles Lucas, Daughters Amber Lucas and Heather Lucas Nowalk all of Milton. Grandchildren Gabriel Davison of Costa Rica, Audrey and Garrett Westphal and Thomas Lucas of Milton. Mother Nelma Dunaway of Milton, Brothers Randy Lucas of Hurricane, John Lucas of Foster, Sister Kathy Lucas of Proctorville and Faithful hound Freckles. 
A celebration of Michael's life will be from 6 til 8 Friday January, 29, 2016 at Allen Funeral Home. Please visit allenfuneralhomewv.com to share memories and condolences In lieu of flowers please donate to the charity of your choice.

Unfortunately he felt like Life wasn't worth living any more.. He took his own life sitting at the kitchen table with little mementos on the table of the things he loved most...  his kids,  fishing lures,  golf tees, etc.      I'm sorry Mikey Jo  life was too hard!  You will be missed by many!